Day of Voices: Erin

When I was 23 years old, shortly after I was married in December of 2002, I discovered I was pregnant, despite the fact that I was taking the pill ortho tri cyclen at the time. My husband and I at the time were living in a condo owned by my brother-in-law and were barely making our bills so we decided to terminate the pregnancy. I had an appointment scheduled with Planned Parenthood for an abortion. However, prior to my appointment date I started having pain and bleeding at which time my husband rushed me to the emergency room. I was given an ultra sound and was told the pregnancy was ectopic and was taken into surgery to have it removed. Once I recovered I resumed taking the pill.

Two years later, despite continued use of the pill, I once again discovered I was pregnant, and once again my husband I felt we were not ready to be parents and decided again to terminate the pregnancy. However, shortly after making that decision I once again started to feel pain and was rushed into surgery for yet another ectopic. After the second incident my doctor and I both decided the pill was not the best option for me and I started on depo provera shots once every 3 months. Two years later, however, I was once again pregnant.

Considering my past, I went in immediately for an ultra sound and discovered the pregnancy was healthy. My husband and were in the middle of moving out of state at the time and discussed our decision at length, but ultimately decided to keep the baby. When I was 28 years old, I gave birth to our son on the 4th of July 2007. He is now 4 years old.

My husband and I both love our son and being parents, but given the state of the economy and also our desire to ensure we will always be able to afford the needs of our child, we have decided not to have any more children, at least not for the time being. I am currently using a form of birth control called ParaGard which is a 10 year non-hormonal IUD.

ParaGard works mainly by preventing the sperm from reaching and fertilizing the egg. However, should an egg become fertilized, ParaGard may also prevent the egg from attaching itself to the uterine wall. This is how most types of birth control work and for this reason proposition 26, because it grants personhood to an egg at the moment of fertilization, could potentially outlaw almost every form of birth control.

So far this is the only form of birth control that has proven to be safe, effective, and convenient for me. I currently live in Southern California. I do not, nor have I ever lived in Mississippi, and I am very grateful for that fact, considering the form of birth control that I have to be most effective to me, will most likely be outlawed, should proposition 26 pass.

About Atlee Breland

I'm a Mississippian, a Christian, a computer programmer, a wife, and -- thanks to infertility treatment -- a mother of three wonderful children.
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4 Responses to Day of Voices: Erin

  1. Natalie says:

    Your son is so very fortunate that he was conceived at a time that worked with your schedule, otherwise he would be decomposing in the trash somewhere. By choosing abortion you are not ending a pregnancy, you are taking a life. You are the reason personhood is even necessary!

    • Wake up MS! says:

      Natalie – First of all, an ectopic pregnancy is not viable. If not ‘decomposing in the trash’ it would be decomposing in her body, likely causing permanent damage. As far as I, and most doctors are concerned, this was not ‘taking a life.’ Second of all, here is a person acting responsibly, taking birth control and waiting until her family is ready for their new addition and you have the audacity to say that they are the reason personhood is necessary? Shame on you! I bet it is easy for you to stand on your high horse (like all of the other yeson26 radicals) and judge those of us trying to do the right thing.

    • anon says:

      Natalie, I pray that you are never given the misery that is infertility. It is the worst hell that I have yet to endure, and the fact that you (and your friends) feel that you should have ANY say in the conception of my children is horrifying. Truly.

    • Your Neighbor in Louisiana says:

      It is medically impossible for a fallopian pregnancy to be viable. If the woman isn’t allowed an abortion–hopefully at an early stage to minimize pain, risk of death, and preserve future fertility–the fallopian tube will rupture as the child grows.

      There is absolutely no chance of a fallopian pregnancy surviving. Untreated, the mother will almost certainly die as well.

      Opposing abortion in the case of ectopic pregnancies makes you pro-preventable-death. The only thing personhood would’ve done in this case is put the poster through more pain and suffering, and potentially killed her as well. Nothing in the world could have made those two pregnancies end in children.