At first glance, I would have jumped at the chance to advocate for every unborn life. But, upon further research, I found that there is so much “less” to this initiative than most people might think – including myself.
As with most couples with a history of infertility, our journey to parenthood was a long one, full of both incredible joy and heart-breaking sorrow. We lost triplets (conceived through our first attempt at IVF, following 6+ years of various infertility treatments and procedures), and my heart aches to even think that one child could ever be considered “unwanted.” However, without IVF and other infertility procedures provided by a competent, caring, compassionate Mississippi endocrinologist, my husband and I would not have had our children.
Our son is a frozen embryo transfer miracle (conceived during our first IVF cycle and transferred one year later) and our daughter a miracle from one round of IVF that resulted in only one viable embryo. Through the conception and birth of these two blessings, our hearts have been healed and we are now embracing the ups and downs of parenthood.
Now, to address another aspect of concern. I have also experienced the trauma of a heterotopic pregnancy in which my uterus contained a blighted ovum and one of my fallopian tubes (unknown to us at the time) contained a growing embryo. It wasn’t until my tube ruptured that we realized what was happening. I nearly bled to death – leaving my son to grow up without a mother. I cannot even imagine a woman being threatened with legal action for any treatment regarding an ectopic pregnancy.
With the incredible amount of emotional fluctuation that accompanies infertility treatments themselves, the last thing any couple should have to worry about is whether or not the treatment options they choose might result in legal complications. Even more so, whether or not any treatment options exist at all.
I am a pro-life mother of seven – two are here with me, five are waiting in Heaven for me. Sometimes, I entertain the idea of having another, but I am very bad at bearing them. With our triplets, I had several issues occurring simultaneously (vaginal infection, PROM, gestational diabetes) that I know led to pre-term labor and the most agonizing moment of my life. I also developed gestational diabetes while carrying my son, who was born at 33 weeks, 5 days (and spent 19 days in the NICU). I carried my daughter the “longest,” and delivered her at 36 weeks, 3 days, via an emergency c-section due to high blood pressure. So, as you can imagine, these two children are our world.
With all this being said, this is my stand (taken from parentsagainstms26):
You can be pro-life and still believe that MS 26 is much too restrictive. Many IVF patients consider themselves pro-life, and ALL patients are counseled about the ethical issues prior to undergoing treatment. Couples who are considering infertility treatment put extensive thought into their choices, as do their doctors.
MS 26 is about so much more than just abortion. Even if you’re strongly opposed to elective abortion, please consider that a Yes vote is also a vote against IVF, birth control pills, and safe ectopic pregnancy treatment.
Thank you for listening to our story. Praying that the people of MS see this initiative for what it really is…..not what they think it is.
Melissa & Charlie
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